The Illusion Of Not-Love

Not-love is anything that is not love: anger, fear, jealousy, meanness, cruelty, deception, manipulation, control, intentionally hurting another. Whereas love is kindness, compassion, caring, joy, happiness. Love shared with others at the expense of oneself may direct love toward others but not-love toward oneself.

The illusion of not-love is that it has power. It may seem like it does. Someone hurts you, deceives you, manipulates you, and, hurt, you give up your power, at least some of it, perhaps temporarily.

A battle may be won, but not the war.

Not-love experienced again and again creates the illusion of powerlessness. Giving away one’s power happens because of the belief that one’s power can be taken away. No one can take away your power without you allowing it, without your consent.

There is no illusion in love. Love has power — is power — full power, the highest power. The only power. Whether one is meek or outgoing, love is power. Whether one is meek or outgoing, not-love is without power — perceived as power — and an illusion.

Not-love is borne of experiencing not-love and perpetuating it in one’s life and within our world.

Love — true power — feels good. Grace can transmute not-love.

A simple thing to do is strive for love and allow grace to transmute not-love.